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Post by beverley16 on Jun 14, 2008 0:26:11 GMT -12
We are all a bit further on down the healing line MM there is light at the end of the tunnel
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Post by madmare on Jun 14, 2008 1:12:04 GMT -12
i am sure thing will heal in time but at the minute i cant see it, gonna help my hubby celebrate his 40th tomo and same day its my dads 77th and fathers day , hopefully the wine will numb it slightely , starting tonight but sure the 7am ride tomo will clear my head comet hates it when i throw up on him
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Post by dogndobbin on Jun 16, 2008 23:21:08 GMT -12
MM I coped/cope because I have to and it does get a little easier with time. My children need me although sometimes i do wonder who the child is! but i had to be strong for them and carry on. Hope your dad had a good fathers day and dont forget you have a lovely hubby too.
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Post by alijane on Jun 17, 2008 1:35:07 GMT -12
Ladies, you are all amazing and just look at what everyone has or is working through! It just goes to show that even though we feel alone sometimes we are not. This is such a supportive forum, it's a therapy all on it's own!
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Post by beverley16 on Jun 17, 2008 1:38:59 GMT -12
Too true alijane. There's loads of us "oldies" on here that have been through tragedies & maybe can offer some soothing words of wisdom.
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Post by Spider on Jun 17, 2008 5:52:31 GMT -12
Ladies, you are all amazing and just look at what everyone has or is working through! It just goes to show that even though we feel alone sometimes we are not. This is such a supportive forum, it's a therapy all on it's own! Well thank you alijane that is such a nice thing to say.. make it all worth while
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Post by madmare on Jun 18, 2008 23:08:40 GMT -12
hear hear , thanks to everyone for their words of support the birthdays went well ! a bit emotional at times we all felt it with mum ot being there but i feel she was there watching over us all ! the headach was not too bad on monday but shaun took till yasterday to come round ;D ah bless
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Post by beverley16 on Jun 19, 2008 2:33:29 GMT -12
good to hear you enjoyed yourself MM
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Post by guest on Oct 19, 2008 1:07:08 GMT -12
i cant believe how much i can relate to from what you have all said without saying too much, i have had it rough over the past 6 months (well 2 years, but ultimately 6 months) lost a parent after a battle with cancer, exams, and just general stress and strains to get used to everything. i was ok at the time, managed to scrape through my GCSE's (exams were 2 weeks after funeral) and i got 5 A's 3 B's and a C which to be honest i was devastated about and i burst into tears when i got them because i knew he would have been dissapointed, even though they are "good" for my school, most of my mates struggled to get 5 passes. i dont know whether i dealt with it too quickly- i didnt cry or grieve as much as the rest of my family after the initial shock, i just knuckled down with studying and pushed it to the back of my mind until 'later' (apparently later is now) and now i dont know what to think or do. its affecting 6th form (A-levels) and is extra pressure on my mum which she doesnt need and i feel utterly useless at everything- i broke down the other day when i was riding because i couldnt do sitting trot well, how pathetic is that i hate feeling like this, im never great when the late nights come and its multiplied by about 20 with PMT on top im just a complete mess. what am i supposed to do?
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Post by silverlady on Oct 19, 2008 3:16:41 GMT -12
Hello young lady, sorry your so down at the moment, I am sure your dad would have been extremely proud of you to have done so well. If you feel a bit down there's usually someone about to chat too. Just try and keeo your chin up for your mum,can't you talk to her about what is bothering you. Take care we are all here for you..
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Post by madamebonnie on Oct 19, 2008 5:11:20 GMT -12
I think your GCSE's are fantastic! you should be proud that you even sat the exams let alone the results!
6th form is so hard even without extra pressure, dont worry about breaking down, i do it all the time if im even the slightest bit frustrated.
try going out for a run or a walk if things get to much for you, i think it helps alot just to clear your head and get out of the house. im sure theres people at school you can talk to aswell, and we're always here for you.
xxxx(big kisses and hugs)xxxx
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Post by guest on Oct 19, 2008 5:51:43 GMT -12
i wish i knew what was bothering me half the time. obviously theres a few things that are affecting me but they dont feel like the whole 'story' (sorry im crap at explaining what i mean) theres always something else. i can (and do) talk to her, but i dont know what to say cos even i dont know im gonna end up with bloody anorexia the way im going, im exercising loads, what with horses and dogs and i have started with the cross trainer when im bored just to pass time, my eating just drops off then i binge on crap then i feel bad for that- arghh endless circle! its not as if i enjoy skipping meals (im like a native pony, driven by food me) but i do anyway would it be worth going to the doctor- i dont want an excuse and i want to be strong and just get on with it how do you say/ask when you go, i dont want to just start sobbing when i shut the door which is whats going to happen and feel stupid, i feel like that enough of the time already!
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Post by Rach on Oct 19, 2008 5:56:59 GMT -12
i cant believe how much i can relate to from what you have all said without saying too much, i have had it rough over the past 6 months (well 2 years, but ultimately 6 months) lost a parent after a battle with cancer, exams, and just general stress and strains to get used to everything. i was ok at the time, managed to scrape through my GCSE's (exams were 2 weeks after funeral) and i got 5 A's 3 B's and a C which to be honest i was devastated about and i burst into tears when i got them because i knew he would have been dissapointed, even though they are "good" for my school, most of my mates struggled to get 5 passes. i dont know whether i dealt with it too quickly- i didnt cry or grieve as much as the rest of my family after the initial shock, i just knuckled down with studying and pushed it to the back of my mind until 'later' (apparently later is now) and now i dont know what to think or do. its affecting 6th form (A-levels) and is extra pressure on my mum which she doesnt need and i feel utterly useless at everything- i broke down the other day when i was riding because i couldnt do sitting trot well, how pathetic is that i hate feeling like this, im never great when the late nights come and its multiplied by about 20 with PMT on top im just a complete mess. what am i supposed to do? I really feel for you - its such an awful thing to go through losing a parent, but can i just say i think those GCSE results are fantastic! Im sure your dad is very proud of you.. Its good that your trying to pass time and keep yourself occupied but do be careful and keep on eating its really not good for you, you will feel worse Huge hugs xx
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Post by madamebonnie on Oct 19, 2008 5:59:01 GMT -12
there is absolutly no embarassement in going to the doctors!! i have no idea what you say when you get there but anorexia is serious and if you think you have a problem then its so worth talking to someone about it.
btw school might pay for you to talk to someone like professional especialy if you say that this is affecting your school work, its worth a try if you want it. xxxxxxxx
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